The most common complaint from women in sex therapy is not having enough time to enjoy.
Taoist theory states that men are like fire and women like water. Fire lights quickly and burns easily. Women need more time and legitimate foreplay, which begins in her heart, in order to boil.
On average, it takes men five to seven minutes from initial arousal to releasing qi. For women, our full blossoming takes closer to forty minutes.
Because of an unfortunate shame lingering around our sexuality, a frantic rush to a superficial endpoint interferes with what can be a most transcendental, holy, life-altering experience.
Slow the fuck down.
